John Hoffman

About John Hoffman

John has had three distinct careers that have blended together at times: roots musician, stay-at-home father and freelance writer. A former long-time columnist and feature writer for Today’s Parent, John now specializes in knowledge translation, blogging and writing for non-profit organizations like The MEHRIT Centre, The Psychology Foundation of Canada and Dad Central Ontario.
11 12, 2018

Reaching Out: The Most Important Parenting Skill of All?

By | 2018-12-03T17:48:56+00:00 December 11th, 2018|

I recognized the tone of voice right away. My friend Mara* was on the line. (*names changed at family’s request) “How are you doing?” I asked. “I’ve been better,” she replied. Mara’s voice caught a bit on the word better, the clear sign of someone trying to hold it together. [...]

30 10, 2018

What’s Different (and So Great) About Self-Reg

By | 2018-10-29T12:18:41+00:00 October 30th, 2018|

As a journalist, researcher and father, I have been studying the fascinating, messy world of child development for 30 years. I’ve had many aha moments, and surprising insights over the years, but in the past five years or so I’ve found that Self-Reg has unlocked more mysteries and puzzlements than [...]

13 09, 2018

Concerned About Your Child’s Behaviour? Don’t Do This

By | 2018-09-12T14:44:14+00:00 September 13th, 2018|

When people ask me for advice about how to deal with a challenging behavioural issue from a child, I always start with my personal “Rule #1.” Whatever else you do, try not to make it worse. Why? Because if we don't make it worse, a lot of child behaviours, traits, [...]

21 08, 2018

The Seven Habits of Self-Reg Parents

By | 2018-08-21T14:41:41+00:00 August 21st, 2018|

As most of us know, parenting is an experience in which the learning never stops. Sometimes, the best way to gauge your progress as a parent is to stop and look back at how things used to be — six months or a year ago — and notice how much [...]

26 07, 2018

Two Big Takeaways from SRSS 2018

By | 2018-07-23T15:16:20+00:00 July 26th, 2018|

Well, it was yet another amazing Self-Reg Summer Symposium this year! My head is still spinning with some of the things I saw and heard, and the people I met. I wanted to share my thoughts about a couple of ideas that jumped out at me from Stuart’s “Luminary Sessions” [...]

5 07, 2018

Those Hazy Crazy Days of SRSS

By | 2018-07-04T16:23:24+00:00 July 5th, 2018|

Just about three years ago today I stood in a parking lot at Trent University waiting for Susan Hopkins. It was the day before the very first Self-Reg Summer Symposium and Susan and I were about to meet in person for the first time. I’d worked off and on with [...]

29 05, 2018

Why I Love Hearing Dr. Shanker Speak Live

By | 2018-06-01T13:16:59+00:00 May 29th, 2018|

I have many reasons to look forward to the Self-Reg Summer Symposium each year. One of them is meeting people: I work on my own out of a home office, so I don’t get the daily face-to-face contact with colleagues and clients that is one of the social benefits of [...]

24 04, 2018

The Importance of Fun in Kids’ Self-Regulation

By | 2018-04-24T14:46:36+00:00 April 24th, 2018|

This post is part of our Everyday Self-Reg series. When I was 21, my buddy Tom and I had this half-baked, youthfully idealistic notion that a lot of the world’s problems and conflicts could be solved if people would just be more playful and have more fun. As I grew [...]

22 02, 2018

What Is the Most Important Factor in Good Parenting?

By | 2018-02-22T17:28:36+00:00 February 22nd, 2018|

This post is part of our Everyday Self-Reg series. I have spent almost thirty years writing about parenting. That includes: over 150 magazine articles more than a dozen parenting booklets brochures, blogs and web content interviews with over 100 educators and researchers interviews with several hundred parents hours of reflection [...]

8 11, 2017

Everyday Self-Reg: Manners and Courtesy

By | 2018-02-22T17:27:42+00:00 November 8th, 2017|

When I was a kid I had a very negative view of manners. I was taught manners and forced to use them. But I didn’t understand what they were for. To my 10-year-old self, manners felt like a form of social control, rules dreamed up by adults who felt driven [...]

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