Stuart Shanker

About Stuart Shanker

Dr. Stuart Shanker is a Distinguished Research Professor Emeritus of Philosophy and Psychology at York University and the CEO of The MEHRIT Centre, Ltd. Stuart has served as an advisor on early child development to government organizations across Canada and the US, and in countries around the world.Dr. Shanker also blogs for Psychology Today
19 03, 2019

Part 3: Considering The Different Kinds of “Why?”

By | 2019-03-14T16:32:12+00:00 March 19th, 2019|

The Self-Reg educator or parent seeks to understand, rather than manage a child’s behaviour. In effect, what is being reframed here is what it means to see the Kindergarten teacher as a professional and not a glorified baby-sitter: someone who has been trained to ask the right kind of “Why” and has [...]

5 03, 2019

Part 2: Reframing “Challenging Behaviour” in Kindergarten

By | 2019-02-25T11:46:29+00:00 March 5th, 2019|

Kindergarten marks a major transition in children’s lives: from being coddled infants to being treated as responsible individuals. They are students now, and as such they have to meet certain expectations, as noted in an article published on education.com: “He can follow the lead of a teacher and will honor [...]

19 02, 2019

“Reframing” Challenging Behaviour, Part 1: Blue Brain, Red Brain, and Brown Brain

By | 2019-02-19T08:48:20+00:00 February 19th, 2019|

The Different Kinds of “Why?”   Parents of new babies are forever asking why. “Why is she crying? Is she hungry, wet, scared, lonely, bored?” Since we can’t just ask her, we put on our detective’s hat. We think back to previous occasions, experiment with trial-and-error, ask somebody knowledgeable. Things [...]

5 02, 2019

See a Child Differently and You’ll See a Different Child

By | 2019-02-11T17:24:22+00:00 February 5th, 2019|

This was originally an article in the Self-Reg Parenting Magazine Vol 1 Issue 2. Take a look at this picture and tell me whether there’s something in the duck’s bill: Now take a look at this picture and tell me whether there is something in the rabbit’s mouth: This phenomenon [...]

22 01, 2019

No Such Thing as a Bad Kid

By | 2019-02-13T11:06:47+00:00 January 22nd, 2019|

This was originally an article in the Self-Reg Parenting Magazine Vol 1 Issue 2 Children have such different ways of responding to being over-stressed. Some get physically ill. Some get nervous and anxious. Some become manic and hyperactive. Some have trouble going to sleep and others don’t want to do [...]

20 11, 2018

Blue Brain Red Brain Balance is the Key

By | 2018-11-20T12:56:26+00:00 November 20th, 2018|

Parents are forever asking us: “Can Self-Reg help me with my child’s challenging behaviours? Nothing I say or do seems to help.” Self-Reg will indeed make a difference—a huge one—in dealing with problems like explosive behaviour, aggression, defiance, tantrums, persistent crying, bouts of frenzy and constant arguing. But to address [...]

19 06, 2018

The Self-Reg View of: Freedom

By | 2018-06-18T13:50:36+00:00 June 19th, 2018|

Balance ⊢ Freedom I am still trying to understand the meaning of what we saw on the weekend of March 24, 2018: the March for our Lives. Teens around the world, rising up against – what exactly? The lack of gun control? Political apathy and cynicism? Insidious interest groups? The bizarre [...]

14 05, 2018

Teens and Motivation: Are We Focusing On the Wrong Part of the Brain?

By | 2018-05-14T12:15:23+00:00 May 14th, 2018|

In some ways, Janus would be the perfect symbol for Self-Reg. Partly, because Janus was the god of beginnings and transitions; but mostly, because Janus’ two faces were supposed to represent looking to the future and looking to the past. We might say the same thing about the “Triune Brain.” [...]

8 02, 2018

The Self-Reg View of Constant Craving

By | 2018-02-21T15:37:46+00:00 February 8th, 2018|

By: Dr. Stuart Shanker Experiments are all around us, if only we take the time to observe and reflect on them. We just had one with our 16-year-old son that would have been so easy to dismiss as yet another absurd teenager annoyance. But this one clearly demanded a bit [...]

11 01, 2018

Self-Reg: Looking to the Future

By | 2018-01-11T15:48:25+00:00 January 11th, 2018|

There is a widespread tendency to see resilience as a trait. For Self-Reg, it is an aspiration. We are constantly looking for ways to build a child or teen’s resilience: their capacity, as Ungar puts it, to access the resources that sustain wellbeing. And, Lord knows, we need to be [...]

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