Observing The Connection Between Self-Regulation And Self-Control

Observing The Connection Between Self-Regulation And Self-Control

Last week, the Kindergarten classes at our school went to see Theatre Ancaster‘s production of Shrek The Musical. While a three-hour musical is quite long for Kindergarten students, one of our school’s Kindergarten teachers played the Dragon in this production, so we spent some time exploring the musical in class. We wanted to be there to support Mrs. Raymond as well as see the show. Thursday was the performance for schools, and our Kindergarten students made up 100 of the 700 people in the audience: spanning from JK to high school students. While I wanted to see the musical and spent time marvelling at the amazing talent on stage, I also spent a lot of time watching our young learners in the audience. It was by watching them that I saw the connection between self-regulation and self-control.

The show started at 11:00 and did not end until almost 2:00. While the children all brought a snack in their pockets, by the intermission, many of them were starving and the remaining hour of the show was far more challenging to watch. It was during this hour that I really started to observe self-regulation and co-regulation in action.

  • A couple of students started to gently lean on the seat in front of them. The pressure from the seat seemed to help them stay focused.
  • A few more students began to wiggle slightly or bounce slightly in their seat. They made sure to do so without making any noise, but the movement itself, seemed to calm them down.
  • The child sitting next to me, stood up, hunched over, and leaned slightly into the seat in front of him. While I initially asked him to sit down, I realized that standing up and shifting from foot-to-foot, seemed to help him self-regulate. Since he was short enough not to block the person’s view behind him, I began to let him just stand up.
  • Some students found some additional snacks in their pockets, and began to eat quietly during the performance. Additional food seemed to help them focus, and both my teaching partner and I said that we would pack more snacks if we were to go to a play again.
  • One mom gave her son a piece of paper to draw on as he listened to the musical. She recognized his need to keep his hands active, and this activity definitely worked well for him.
  • A couple of girls played with the bracelets that they wore, another child applied some Chapstick to her lips, and a third child brushed her hair. We often talk about the benefit of fidget toys for some children, and bracelets, Chapstick, and a hair brush, all acted as fidget toys.
  • I moved seats a couple of times. While switching seats allowed me to observe some different children and support a few children as needed, this also allowed me to get up, stretch my legs, and refocus. 

In the past, I would have been constantly quieting children or taking some students out of the theatre in an effort to force them to behave, but thanks to the ability to self-regulate, our youngest learners were able to demonstrate self-control when needed in this type of environment. I can’t help but think of this wonderful infographic by The MEHRIT Centre that highlights the difference between self-regulation and self-control, and “how self-regulation makes self-control possible.” I saw this first-hand on Thursday. What are your experiences with self-regulation and self-control? Maybe to really see the difference between them, we need to have these experiences like my musical one from last week. What do you think?

Aviva Dunsiger has been the Portal Plus Moderator for a year now and completed the Foundations 1 Certification Program. She has taught everything from Kindergarten to Grade 6 and enjoys blogging about her teaching and learning experiences. She blogs professionally on her blog, Living Avivaloca. Aviva is excited to contribute a monthly post on The MEHRIT Centre Blog.

By | 2016-12-13T10:43:41+00:00 December 5th, 2016|


  1. Health and Safety Blog December 13, 2016 at 5:48 am - Reply

    Excellent work and thank you. I’m going out to the range for the first time today, and now I feel well prepared.

    • Aviva Dunsiger January 5, 2017 at 5:37 pm - Reply

      Thanks for your comment! I’d love to hear more about how this post helped you.


  2. Lisa Cranston December 14, 2016 at 10:05 am - Reply

    Like you I’ve been inspired by my learning here at the MEHRIT centre and view some classroom situations differently than I would have in the past. I’ve blogged about my reflections on self-reg after a recent small group instruction experience teaching a new math game here: http://openingdoorsforrlearning.blogspot.ca/2016/12/standing-desks-and-other-classroom.html

    • Aviva Dunsiger December 14, 2016 at 9:26 pm - Reply

      Thanks for sharing this link, Lisa! I will definitely check out your post. I’d love to hear more about how The MEHRIT Centre’s courses have changed your classroom views. I know they changed a lot of mine.


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  4. Cindy Green September 19, 2017 at 2:51 pm - Reply

    That phrase “self-regulation makes self-control possible” has changed my practice deeply. I share it with anyone able and willing to listen!

    • Aviva Dunsiger September 19, 2017 at 9:21 pm - Reply

      I agree, Cindy! It’s a great phrase, and even when we discuss self-regulation as a staff, I make sure to share this with others. It’s definitely food for thought. I’d be curious to hear how others respond when you share this phrase with them.


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