Author: Susan Conklin
PAUSE: Why? and Why now? in Self or in Another
Pause for a moment
for a “30-second-holiday”
for a week, a month, a year.
PLAY: Dance the Self-Reg Tango in Five Steps across the Five Domains
on a Dynamic Systems Dancefloor
Read and Reframe: Embrace-Self-Reg and Let-go-of-Self-control
See stress behaviour in lieu of misbehaviour
See with the heart
Read the signs, as subtle and invisible as they may be
Mind-read: facial expression, tone of voice, posture, pallor — Look & Listen.
See the need for being safe & secure
Check-in to see if the PFC is online or off
Social engagement is vital for the Self-Reg dance and for life.
Necessary and unnecessary stressors
Hidden and not-so-hidden stressors
And sometimes hidden right inside our cells and memories
Dig deep… and deeper still
Keep looking and listening and reaching out with a spirit of camaraderie
Try and try again
It’s a process, a dance
And once stressors are detected… transformational.
Reduce: the Stressors
So that energy used to meet the demands of the stressors
May be replenished and homeostasis may be restored
And we may be calm, alert and ready to learn/live/laugh & love.
Reflect: Nurture awareness and mindfulness
Through dyadic relationships
Resonate thru relationships
Respond: nurture mind-body-soul
Cognitive-Biological-Emotional-Social and Prosocial
Nurturing inner spirit
In ways that are true to our selves
Our unique being.
Live ~ Learn ~ Laugh ~ Love.
Run, dance, roam, climb, hike, paddle, wander;
Wonder, ponder, muddle, meander, dream, design, invent;
Sing, scribble, write, paint, sculpt, beat, calculate;
Chat, share, connect, walk/talk, touch, play;
Empathize, compassion-ize, realize, relate.
In whatever way
Nurtures and expresses