John Hoffman

John has had three distinct careers that have blended together at times: roots musician, stay-at-home father and freelance writer. A former long-time columnist and feature writer for Today’s Parent, John now specializes in knowledge translation, blogging and writing for non-profit organizations like The MEHRIT Centre, The Psychology Foundation of Canada and Dad Central Ontario.
A Self-Reg View on Picky Eating

A Self-Reg View on Picky Eating

When I was a kid, I spent a lot of time sitting at the table after dinner, after everyone else had been excused, staring at a glass of milk I didn’t want to drink. That’s probably when my interest in picky eating started. I now realize that I wasn’t that picky as a...

Thoughts on Parenting While Angry

Thoughts on Parenting While Angry

One of the biggest challenges in raising kids is learning to parent well—OK, reasonably well—when you’re angry. Raising children is inherently emotional. And that means we’re sometimes parenting under the influence of anger and its cousins – frustration, resentment,...

What’s Different (and So Great) About Self-Reg

What’s Different (and So Great) About Self-Reg

As a journalist, researcher and father, I have been studying the fascinating, messy world of child development for 30 years. I’ve had many aha moments, and surprising insights over the years, but in the past five years or so I’ve found that Self-Reg has unlocked...

The Seven Habits of Self-Reg Parents

The Seven Habits of Self-Reg Parents

As most of us know, parenting is an experience in which the learning never stops. Sometimes, the best way to gauge your progress as a parent is to stop and look back at how things used to be — six months or a year ago — and notice how much they’ve changed....

Two Big Takeaways from SRSS 2018

Two Big Takeaways from SRSS 2018

Well, it was yet another amazing Self-Reg Summer Symposium this year! My head is still spinning with some of the things I saw and heard, and the people I met. I wanted to share my thoughts about a couple of ideas that jumped out at me from Stuart’s “Luminary...

Those Hazy Crazy Days of SRSS

Those Hazy Crazy Days of SRSS

Just about three years ago today I stood in a parking lot at Trent University waiting for Susan Hopkins. It was the day before the very first Self-Reg Summer Symposium and Susan and I were about to meet in person for the first time. I’d worked off and on...

Why I Love Hearing Dr. Shanker Speak Live

Why I Love Hearing Dr. Shanker Speak Live

I have many reasons to look forward to the Self-Reg Summer Symposium each year. One of them is meeting people: I work on my own out of a home office, so I don’t get the daily face-to-face contact with colleagues and clients that is one of the social benefits...

The Importance of Fun in Kids’ Self-Regulation

The Importance of Fun in Kids’ Self-Regulation

When I was 21, my buddy Tom and I had this half-baked, youthfully idealistic notion that a lot of the world’s problems and conflicts could be solved if people would just be more playful and have more fun. As I grew older and took on more responsibilities, I gradually...

Everyday Self-Reg: Manners and Courtesy

Everyday Self-Reg: Manners and Courtesy

When I was a kid I had a very negative view of manners. I was taught manners and forced to use them. But I didn’t understand what they were for. To my 10-year-old self, manners felt like a form of social control, rules dreamed up by adults who felt driven to make kids...

Reframing Explosive Behaviour

Reframing Explosive Behaviour

This article was inspired by Dr. Shanker’s keynote lecture at the 2017 Self-Reg Summer Symposium. Learn more about SRSS here. If you’ve ever seen Stuart Shanker give a talk you’ll notice a couple of things before long. First, he never sticks to his script....

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