John Hoffman

John has had three distinct careers that have blended together at times: roots musician, stay-at-home father and freelance writer. A former long-time columnist and feature writer for Today’s Parent, John now specializes in knowledge translation, blogging and writing for non-profit organizations like The MEHRIT Centre, The Psychology Foundation of Canada and Dad Central Ontario.
Those Hazy Crazy Days of SRSS

Those Hazy Crazy Days of SRSS

Just about three years ago today I stood in a parking lot at Trent University waiting for Susan Hopkins. It was the day before the very first Self-Reg Summer Symposium and Susan and I were about to meet in person for the first time. I’d worked off and on with Stuart...

Why I Love Hearing Dr. Shanker Speak Live

Why I Love Hearing Dr. Shanker Speak Live

I have many reasons to look forward to the Self-Reg Summer Symposium each year. One of them is meeting people: I work on my own out of a home office, so I don’t get the daily face-to-face contact with colleagues and clients that is one of the social benefits...

The Importance of Fun in Kids’ Self-Regulation

The Importance of Fun in Kids’ Self-Regulation

When I was 21, my buddy Tom and I had this half-baked, youthfully idealistic notion that a lot of the world’s problems and conflicts could be solved if people would just be more playful and have more fun. As I grew older and took on more responsibilities, I gradually...

Everyday Self-Reg: Manners and Courtesy

Everyday Self-Reg: Manners and Courtesy

When I was a kid I had a very negative view of manners. I was taught manners and forced to use them. But I didn’t understand what they were for. To my 10-year-old self, manners felt like a form of social control, rules dreamed up by adults who felt driven to make kids...

Reframing Explosive Behaviour

Reframing Explosive Behaviour

This article was inspired by Dr. Shanker’s keynote lecture at the 2017 Self-Reg Summer Symposium. If you’ve ever seen Stuart Shanker give a talk you’ll notice a couple of things before long. First, he never sticks to his script. Second of all, there’s always a...

Even More Buzz About the Book

Even More Buzz About the Book

Praise for Stuart Shanker’s new book, Self-Reg: How to Help Your Child (and You) Break the Stress Cycle and Successfully Engage with Life, continues to proliferate on media of various kinds. Dr. Shanker’s second in a series of blogs for Psychology Today, about...

Sleep Training, Night Waking, and Parents

Sleep Training, Night Waking, and Parents

Controlled crying, graduated extinction, Ferberization, cry-it-out. These are some of the names given to methods designed to “teach” babies to sleep through the night. I have done a lot of pondering, writing and research on this topic, including academic research. I...

The Buzz About the Book!

The Buzz About the Book!

Stuart Shanker’s new book, Self-Reg: How to Help Your Child (and You) Break the Stress Cycle and Successfully Engage with Life created an instant buzz when it was released on June 21. In fact, on that very day, the first day it was available for...

Fathers and Self-Regulation in Families

Fathers and Self-Regulation in Families

I have spent more than 25 years writing about fatherhood, and I am a father of three grown young men. Getting into self-regulation has given me a new way of looking at fatherhood issues. I’m particularly interested in how father involvement affects the self-regulation...

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