John Hoffman

About John Hoffman

John has had three distinct careers that have blended together at times: roots musician, stay-at-home father and freelance writer. A former long-time columnist and feature writer for Today’s Parent, John now specializes in knowledge translation, blogging and writing for non-profit organizations like The MEHRIT Centre, The Psychology Foundation of Canada and Dad Central Ontario.
29 10, 2019

Finally it Comes Together! Self-Reg helps us understand what we already know

By | 2019-10-29T13:06:03+00:00 October 29th, 2019|

The more I learn about Self-Reg and the brain/body science of stress, the more I have been struck by the same thought over and over. Self-Reg explains things I’ve sort of known for years, but couldn’t articulate very well. So often I’ve watched children, including my own, act in ways [...]

25 06, 2019

A Self-Reg Lens on Men’s Role in Women’s Safety

By | 2019-06-25T07:48:31+00:00 June 25th, 2019|

I feel like I’m wading into risky territory here, but I want to talk about the concept of safety, in terms of women’s experiences and relationships with men. There is a big-picture aspect to this conversation: safety from sexual assault, sexual harassment and domestic violence. Those are overt crimes that [...]

23 04, 2019

Thoughts on Parenting While Angry

By | 2019-04-21T13:39:27+00:00 April 23rd, 2019|

One of the biggest challenges in raising kids is learning to parent well—OK, reasonably well—when you’re angry. Raising children is inherently emotional. And that means we’re sometimes parenting under the influence of anger and its cousins – frustration, resentment, and irritation. When you think about it, a fair number of [...]

29 01, 2019

How Can Self-Reg be the Foundation for Mental Well-being?

By | 2019-01-15T17:10:57+00:00 January 29th, 2019|

Psychiatrist Jean Clinton has been an internationally renowned expert and advocate for children’s mental health for over 30 years. We were thrilled to have Dr. Clinton at our summer symposium once again last summer. In her keynote address, Dr. Clinton drew from her wealth of experience and knowledge to address [...]

8 01, 2019

Words Matter. But Sometimes the Interbrain Matters More.

By | 2019-01-15T17:09:52+00:00 January 8th, 2019|

How many times have you really needed and wanted to support a stressed out person, only to find that your supportive words just didn’t do the trick? (Pick me!) I’m sure we’ve all had this experience. It’s not always easy to find the right words to say to someone in [...]

11 12, 2018

Reaching Out: The Most Important Parenting Skill of All?

By | 2018-12-03T17:48:56+00:00 December 11th, 2018|

I recognized the tone of voice right away. My friend Mara* was on the line. (*names changed at family’s request) “How are you doing?” I asked. “I’ve been better,” she replied. Mara’s voice caught a bit on the word better, the clear sign of someone trying to hold it together. [...]

30 10, 2018

What’s Different (and So Great) About Self-Reg

By | 2018-10-29T12:18:41+00:00 October 30th, 2018|

As a journalist, researcher and father, I have been studying the fascinating, messy world of child development for 30 years. I’ve had many aha moments, and surprising insights over the years, but in the past five years or so I’ve found that Self-Reg has unlocked more mysteries and puzzlements than [...]

13 09, 2018

Concerned About Your Child’s Behaviour? Don’t Do This

By | 2018-09-12T14:44:14+00:00 September 13th, 2018|

When people ask me for advice about how to deal with a challenging behavioural issue from a child, I always start with my personal “Rule #1.” Whatever else you do, try not to make it worse. Why? Because if we don't make it worse, a lot of child behaviours, traits, [...]

21 08, 2018

The Seven Habits of Self-Reg Parents

By | 2018-08-21T14:41:41+00:00 August 21st, 2018|

As most of us know, parenting is an experience in which the learning never stops. Sometimes, the best way to gauge your progress as a parent is to stop and look back at how things used to be — six months or a year ago — and notice how much [...]

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