Stuart Shanker

Dr. Stuart Shanker is a Distinguished Research Professor Emeritus of Philosophy and Psychology at York University and the CEO of The MEHRIT Centre, Ltd. Stuart has served as an advisor on early child development to government organizations across Canada and the US, and in countries around the world. Dr. Shanker also blogs for Psychology Today
Psychology Today: Self-Reg and Holiday Stress

Psychology Today: Self-Reg and Holiday Stress

“You have to be calm in order to enjoy being calm. If we’re over-stressed going into the holidays we’re likely to be over-stressed coming out.” In this article, Dr. Shanker discusses the reasons why the winter holidays are often more stressful than they are...

Psychology Today: The Truth About Lying

Psychology Today: The Truth About Lying

Lying is the quintessential example of misbehaviour, but confabulating is a stress behaviour. The big challenge in helping a child develop truthfulness is recognizing which is which, and knowing how best to respond when we’re dealing with...

Psychology Today: Reframing Temperament

Psychology Today: Reframing Temperament

Self-Reg worries just as much about describing an infant as “difficult” as describing an older child as “bad.” The point is that an infant’s “difficult” behaviours need to be reframed every bit as much as what gets mistakenly labelled as “misbehaviour” in a child or...

Going For Gold

Going For Gold

Like everyone else in Canada, I was mesmerized by Penny Oleksiak’s performance at the 2016 Olympics. Oleksiak had already proven that she was a force to be reckoned with at last year’s World Juniors. She was incredible in the 100m butterfly, but what she did in the...

Psychology Today: Caught In a Stress Cycle

Psychology Today: Caught In a Stress Cycle

We may not be the most stressed generation ever but we are certainly the generation that talks the most about how stressed we are. We are constantly bombarded with messages that play on this theme: “You need to take a holiday,” “Pamper yourself,” “Buy this miracle...

The Self-Reg View Of: The Joy of Self-Reg

The Self-Reg View Of: The Joy of Self-Reg

I’ve had several defining moments over the course of my career, but nothing quite as powerful as what has transpired with our Foundations Courses. Our initial planning was conservative. We were anticipating a small number of participants to begin with, and, if...

The Self-Reg View of Resilience

The Self-Reg View of Resilience

Over the past few years, a number of articles have appeared warning about the serious decline in student resilience. Not just what Robin Wilson calls an “epidemic of anguish” [Wilson], but what Peter Gray describes as a remarkably limited ability to deal with even...

The Self-Reg View of Obesity

The Self-Reg View of Obesity

I don’t want to write a blog about statistics. We all know that the obesity problem in children is very serious and that the number of obese youth is positively alarming. I want to talk instead about the suffering that is so often caused by the Self-Control paradigm,...

The Self-Reg View of Risky Behaviour

The Self-Reg View of Risky Behaviour

In our very first webinar in the ‘Epidemic of Epidemics’ series we looked at the “anxiety epidemic”; today I want to look at the opposite end of this spectrum, the epidemic of “manic” children and youth. Kids who are chronically hyper, driven to find ways to fuel...

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