Reading the Signs: What Self-Reg Taught Me About Stress

Blog By: Alex Kronstein, a Self-Reg Foundations Certificate Program learner.

As I progressed through the Self-Reg Foundations 1 course, there were several aspects that really stood out for me.

One of the first things that stood out for me was the description of the Triune Brain, as well as the description of the interbrain.  I already had some basic understanding of the triune brain, but I’d never heard it referred to as such until this course.  I especially understand now how people, especially children, regress when they’re under extreme stress.

The Triune Brain, image of the brain with the neocortex in blue, the limbic system in red and the reptilian brain in gray. Adapted from Paul MacLean's 1960's Triune Brain Model

Understanding How Stress Influences Learning and Physical Health

Another thing the course helped me understand better is that stress responses to perceived threats significantly impact one’s ability to learn.  Kids will certainly have poor educational outcomes if they’re frequently sick.

And excessive stress can certainly have adverse effects on your health.  Speaking from experience, often when I’m under stress with my work, I tend to have trouble sleeping or eating – mainly sleeping, since I tend to wake up after only a few hours, often unconsciously.

Illustrated infographic titled “Reframe the Behaviour,” by Kristin Wiens, with a quote from Stuart Shanker: “Once we start reframing, we see everything differently.” The graphic contrasts seeing behaviour as intentional “misbehaviour” versus understanding it as stress behaviour. On the left, adults feel irritated, seek compliance, and increase dysregulation. On the right, adults become inquisitive, lend calm, and support co-regulation, leading to less stress for the child.
Graphic created by Kristin Wiens from North Star Paths

Stress Behaviour Versus Misbehaviour

One extremely important thing the course helped me understand is the distinction between misbehaviour and stress behaviour – and also how to read the signs of stress behaviour. 

So many teachers and other authority figures don’t know, or care, how to distinguish between the two or how to read the signs.  This is doubly true when PBS/PBIS/PEBS are predominant.  As a result, kids tend to get punished for stress responses.

What I’ve Learned About Stress, Dopamine, and the HOOK Model

The discussion around super-stimulants was extremely informative.  I totally get that people become drawn to super-stimulants, especially food, when they’re over-stressed.  I myself have been guilty of this on occasion – mostly junk food. 

And whenever your brain gets an increase of dopamine, you’ll likely be triggered, almost unconsciously, to seek out that same thing again that gave you the initial dopamine high.  For me, however, this hasn’t been a major issue.  So cutting out the dopamine junk is definitely something that applies to Self-Reg.

Two other things that stood out to me in the course are: the idea of boredom being a kind of stress.  Nobody ever thinks of it that way, especially teachers. And last but definitely not least, “There’s no such thing as a bad kid!“

All told, Foundations 1 has been very helpful for me, especially for how it improved my understanding of the body and brain’s reaction to stress.

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