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By Kameka Kirby Chang

This was created by Kameka as part of her learning journey in our Self-Reg Facilitator’s Program.

We love the creative way this passionate learner concocted strategies and wisdom gathered from her Self-Reg journey, to create this special recipe. It is a testament to the power of reframing in a quest to nourish resilience, and to turn every day challenges into opportunities for growth. Each ingredient, carefully chosen, represents a fundamental aspect of Shanker Self-Reg®.

A Recipe For Reframing


  • 4 cups of open mind
  • 1/2 cup of pause
  • 1 tbsp of WHY?
  • 2 cups of empathy
  • Self-Reg lense
  • 1/4 cup of patience
  • 2 tbsp respect
  • 1 cup calm


  • Pause, take a breather and reassess the situation.
  • Look at the situation through a difference lense. How can we help?
  • Using your empathy, kindness, patience and respect, think about what domains could be causing this stress.
  • Is that individual in red brain or blue brain?
  • We are able to look deeper into the why and the stress when we ourselves can lend our calm to aid with regulation. We ask the questions; WHY? and WHY NOW?

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