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We all have people in our lives that fill up our tank and give us the energy we need to keep going. These are important relationships. But have you ever wondered why that is? What is so special about these relationships and how can we protect and harness that energy?

In this episode, Dr. Stuart Shanker and Susan Hopkins will break down the importance of relationships with a combination of personal stories and science.

Listen in to learn more about:

  • What’s going on inside our brains when we connect
  • The importance of relationships across the lifespan
  • How focusing on the “Self” in Self-Reg is crucial for maintaining these relationships

Created as part of our Self-Reg Show podcast series. Subscribe & Download on your favourite platform and check out all our great podcasts here.

Episode Quotes

“We were designed to need each other, we were designed to regulate each other, from the moment of birth until the moment of death. But Self-Reg always puts the emphasis on self.”

“We are the ones that turn off the energy burners in someone else. What we’re doing is we’re giving the neurobiology of relationships, the neurobiology of co-regulation. But, there is a “but”, and the “but” is, I can only do this If I’m calm.”

Continue the Self-Reg Learning about the Importance of Relationships

Catch our previous episode about Why Do Struggle to Connect with Others? here.

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