Self-Reg for Teens

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What is Self-Reg?

Self-Reg is a way to understand and improve self-regulation by understanding and dealing with stress better. In Self-Reg we look at how we respond to stress and how those responses are related to our tension and energy levels.

 

Self-Regulation

  • Self-Reg is based on the original scientific definition of self-regulation, which refersĀ to how we respond to stress.
  • We all self-regulate. But sometimes we do it in ways that aren’t so good—waysĀ that make us feel better at first, butĀ actually lead to even more stress down the road.
  • Good self-regulation helps keep our stress response system in balance, so we can be in the best state for learning, growth and getting along with people.
  • Self-regulation is not the same as self- control. Self-control is about inhibitingĀ impulses. Effective self-regulationĀ reduces the stress-induced feelings that cause impulses.
  • When we feel self-regulated it is easier to understand emotions, thoughts and behaviour, in ourselves and others.

Self-Reg looks at stress acrossĀ five domains (areas) of experience: biological (in the body), emotion, cognitive (thinking), social and prosocial (empathy, knowing right from wrong).

Graphic illustrating the 5 domains of Self-Reg: biological, emotion, social, pro social and cognitive.
There are five practices in the shanker method of self-reg: Reframe the behaviour, recognize the stressors, reduce the stress, reflect and enhance stress awareness and restore with personalized ways to replenish lost energy and reduce tension

The ultimate Self-Reg goal is to learn to recognize when you are overstressed and then manage your energy and tension to help yourself feel better. Those skills will help you:

  • understand your feelings and behaviour
  • be more patient and understanding, and respond more positively to people’s behaviour, emotional and social problems.

Effective self-regulation can help you have aĀ happier and more successful life!

Become A Stress Detective

Learn how to tell when behaviour or mood problems are caused by too much stress.

Many ā€œmisbehavioursā€ are actually ā€œstress behaviours,ā€ caused by too much stress.

When someone (including yourself) overreacts or behaves in a way that makes no sense, ask why and look for the stressors that may be causing the behaviour.

 

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Self-Reg is Personal.
It begins with you.


Self-Reg is a process of ongoing personal learning about the connections between stress, energy and tension and how theyĀ affect our moods and behaviours.

When you’re feeling unbalanced or ā€œnot yourselfā€ā€”mentally, physically or emotionally, always ask yourself how excess stress mightĀ be affecting you.

Looking to Learn More?

Share Self-Reg learning with the youth in your care with ourĀ Feeling Stressed: A Self-Reg Course for Teens.

And for the parents who would like to learn Self-Reg themselves, we also have our Self-Reg Parenting Course.

 

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