“There’s No Such Thing as a Bad Kid“
– Stuart Shanker
It’s a statement that sounds idealistic—there’s no such thing as a bad kid. But as this short video explains, it’s not wishful thinking—it’s neuroscience.
When children show behaviors that frustrate or confuse us, they’re not being “bad.” They’re overstressed. Their actions are signals, not defiance. Once we start to reframe behavior through a Self-Reg lens, we can see what the child is really communicating and help them return to calm.
This isn’t about excusing behavior—it’s about understanding it. Because every challenging moment is actually an opportunity to support a child’s growth and resilience.
Take a moment to watch this video. It might just change the way you see “behavior” forever.
What Should We Reframe?
Reframing… Easier said than done, eh? Explore some of the great blogs our Self-Reggers have written reframing everything from “Clean Your Room!” to reframing itself.
