A common Self-Reg misconception is that its primary goal is compliance, self-management and emotional control. Many people still misunderstand what Self-Reg truly is, often confusing it with simply getting children to follow rules or control their behaviour through forceful means like rewards and punishments. In the video below, Stuart & Susan challenge this compliance-driven model, using a real-life example of a child’s soccer game where external rewards (like money or ice cream) are offered in exchange for compliance. While this might work in the short term, it overlooks the deeper, internalized motivation that self-regulation fosters, which is key for long-term development and emotional growth.
If you’re curious about how to raise children who are truly self-aware, able to trust their decisions, and intrinsically motivated, this video is a must-watch!
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- Article: Self-Regulation, Self-Control, and the Practice of Shanker Self-Reg®
- Blog: When to Push a Child by Stuart Shanker
- Self-Reg Online Learning
