Everyday Self-Reg: Manners and Courtesy
When I was a kid I had a very negative view of manners. I was taught manners and forced to use them. But I didn’t understand what they were for. To my 10-year-old self, manners felt like a form of social control, rules dreamed up by adults who felt driven to make kids...
The Self-Reg View: Calm Begets Calm
In the 18th and 19th centuries, the Biblical aphorism that one should “Pour oil on troubled waters” began to be seen in literal terms, as an empirical phenomenon worthy of study. Benjamin Franklin performed an experiment on a pond to prove the wisdom of this practice,...
Reframing Explosive Behaviour
This article was inspired by Dr. Shanker’s keynote lecture at the 2017 Self-Reg Summer Symposium. Explosive behaviour was on the agenda for this year’s summer symposium. If you’ve ever seen Stuart Shanker give a talk, you’ll notice a couple of things before...
