co-regulation

19 03, 2019

Part 3: Considering The Different Kinds of “Why?”

By | 2019-03-14T16:32:12+00:00 March 19th, 2019|

The Self-Reg educator or parent seeks to understand, rather than manage a child’s behaviour. In effect, what is being reframed here is what it means to see the Kindergarten teacher as a professional and not a glorified baby-sitter: someone who has been trained to ask the right kind of “Why” and has [...]

5 03, 2019

Part 2: Reframing “Challenging Behaviour” in Kindergarten

By | 2019-02-25T11:46:29+00:00 March 5th, 2019|

Kindergarten marks a major transition in children’s lives: from being coddled infants to being treated as responsible individuals. They are students now, and as such they have to meet certain expectations, as noted in an article published on education.com: “He can follow the lead of a teacher and will honor [...]

26 02, 2019

Singing goodbye to my mom: How the five practices of Self-Reg are helping me through my grief

By | 2019-02-27T11:23:13+00:00 February 26th, 2019|

My mom closed her eyes for the last time on a Sunday night last September and she took her last breath almost 5 days later. Over a short series of blogs to follow, I will share some personal reflections on the five steps of Self-Reg as practices that helped me [...]

19 02, 2019

“Reframing” Challenging Behaviour, Part 1: Blue Brain, Red Brain, and Brown Brain

By | 2019-10-02T14:14:19+00:00 February 19th, 2019|

The Different Kinds of “Why?”   Parents of new babies are forever asking why. “Why is she crying? Is she hungry, wet, scared, lonely, bored?” Since we can’t just ask her, we put on our detective’s hat. We think back to previous occasions, experiment with trial-and-error, ask somebody knowledgeable. Things [...]

12 02, 2019

My Dysregulated Day … And How I Almost Missed It

By | 2019-02-04T13:10:31+00:00 February 12th, 2019|

The more that you learn about Self-Reg, the more that it seems to govern your views of everything in your life. Sometimes I'm sure that Stuart Shanker's questions of, "Why?" and "Why now?" never leave my head. And yet, no matter how much we've learned about Self-Reg, sometimes we miss [...]

8 01, 2019

Words Matter. But Sometimes the Interbrain Matters More.

By | 2019-01-15T17:09:52+00:00 January 8th, 2019|

How many times have you really needed and wanted to support a stressed out person, only to find that your supportive words just didn’t do the trick? (Pick me!) I’m sure we’ve all had this experience. It’s not always easy to find the right words to say to someone in [...]

21 12, 2018

The Time Mom “Went Limbic” Over Some Pancakes

By | 2019-02-14T17:41:12+00:00 December 21st, 2018|

“Can you cut my pancakes for me mom?” “No Siena, you need to cut your own pancakes.” Then came the 9-year-old version of a protest: that slumped over, big sigh drama moment about the unfairness of my response. In a perfectly non-Self-Reg parenting moment I responded, “You are more than [...]

4 12, 2018

My Sick Day: Making It Through Thanks To Foundations 1

By | 2018-12-03T11:00:08+00:00 December 4th, 2018|

It's the start of cold and flu season in Ontario. I often joked that I was "immune to getting sick," having spent so many years around kids and germs, but this year, it got me. I've been balancing more than usual this year between teaching, my work at The MEHRIT [...]

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