parenting

28 06, 2018

Unmotivated or Hooked? The Worrisome Pull Towards “Just One More Episode”

By | 2018-06-27T17:29:24+00:00 June 28th, 2018|

The other night I “pulled the plug” on Netflix for good. It was an easy decision after I used a Self-Reg lens to reframe a parenting problem I’d been struggling with for several months. Here’s where it started: “Siena, turn off the TV.” “Okay.” Followed by nothing. “Siena, are you [...]

24 04, 2018

The Importance of Fun in Kids’ Self-Regulation

By | 2018-04-24T14:46:36+00:00 April 24th, 2018|

This post is part of our Everyday Self-Reg series. When I was 21, my buddy Tom and I had this half-baked, youthfully idealistic notion that a lot of the world’s problems and conflicts could be solved if people would just be more playful and have more fun. As I grew [...]

22 02, 2018

What Is the Most Important Factor in Good Parenting?

By | 2018-02-22T17:28:36+00:00 February 22nd, 2018|

This post is part of our Everyday Self-Reg series. I have spent almost thirty years writing about parenting. That includes: over 150 magazine articles more than a dozen parenting booklets brochures, blogs and web content interviews with over 100 educators and researchers interviews with several hundred parents hours of reflection [...]

12 02, 2018

Supporting My Daughter Through a Big Disappointment: How We Respond to Strong Emotion as a Self-Reg Parent

By | 2018-02-12T16:30:30+00:00 February 12th, 2018|

Susan Hopkins and Stuart Shanker use a situation from Susan’s parenting experience as a teachable moment about the Self-Reg approach to helping children deal with strong emotions. They discuss the difference between the cognitive approach — trying to help the child understand and process the strong feelings — and the Self-Reg [...]

23 06, 2016

The Buzz About the Book!

By | 2016-10-31T22:09:34+00:00 June 23rd, 2016|

Stuart Shanker’s new book, Self-Reg: How to Help Your Child (and You) Break the Stress Cycle and Successfully Engage with Life created an instant buzz when it was released on June 21. In fact, on that very day, the first day it was available for purchase, Dr. Shanker’s new book [...]

20 06, 2016

Psychology Today: Self-Reg and the Nature of Stress

By | 2016-10-31T22:09:34+00:00 June 20th, 2016|

Kids today are under way too much stress. Pretty much all kids, all ages. We know this because we’re seeing more and more children and youth with stress-related conditions: e.g., problems in health, allergies, behaviour, mood, attention, weight, resilience. Even more worrying is the large number of kids who are apathetic, oppositional, volatile, [...]

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