Reframing means learning to distinguish between misbehaviour and stress behaviour and recognizing the signs of each. It shifts our attention from the behaviour alone to what may be happening beneath it.
Reframe, the first step of Self-Reg, means learning to distinguish between misbehaviour and stress behaviour and recognize the signs of each.
Behaviour is our doorway into understanding what may be happening beneath the surface. Instead of immediately interpreting challenging behaviour as defiance, laziness, manipulation, or lack of motivation, we become curious about stress and state.
Reframing does not mean eliminating expectations, excusing harmful actions, or assuming that misbehaviour never occurs.
It means making sure we understand what we are responding to.
The Self-Reg shift begins with different questions:
Reframing begins when we become curious about stress instead of judging behaviour at the surface.
