Adults who are responsible for children have many goals. We want to teach, comfort and amuse. We want to help kids have positive experiences, learn to get along with others and become responsible people who make good decisions and solve problems. And we have various ways of pursuing those goals: parenting or educational philosophies, curricula, programs and various strategies, methods and techniques.
But no matter what we’re doing, we’re trying to be a positive influence on our kids, and it’s all done within the context of the adult-child relationship. Our efforts may go well or not so well depending on the nature of that relationship, and our ability to co-regulate with the child.
That’s why relationships are at the heart of Self-Reg. The phrase, “You are the Strategy,” is one simple way of expressing all of that.
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