What Does Self-Reg Look Like When It Starts to Change a Whole System?

What Does Self-Reg Look Like When It Starts to Change a Whole System?

One educator learns Self-Reg. They start seeing things differently. They share what they are noticing with a colleague. The colleague reads something. Attends a workshop. Tries it with a student. Brings it back to a team meeting. And slowly, almost without anyone...
For the Educational Assistants Who Hold Everything Together

For the Educational Assistants Who Hold Everything Together

There is a role in schools and early childhood settings that is often invisible in professional development conversations. The person who is frequently right there when everything escalates. Who is sitting beside the child who cannot hold it together in the large...
What Happens When “Soft Eyes” Are Not Enough

What Happens When “Soft Eyes” Are Not Enough

There is a phrase that circulates in Self-Reg communities: “soft eyes.” It is a reminder to look at a child’s behaviour with compassion and curiosity rather than judgment. It is a good reminder. An important one. And it is never the whole answer. At...
Co-Regulation Is Not a Calming Strategy. It Is a Relationship.

Co-Regulation Is Not a Calming Strategy. It Is a Relationship.

A lot of people come to Self-Reg having already heard the phrase “co-regulation.” They might even feel like they know what it means: helping a child calm down, using a quiet voice, getting down to their level. Those things are not wrong. But they are the...
When Effort Collapses: What My 7-Year-Old Is Teaching Me About Self-Reg 

When Effort Collapses: What My 7-Year-Old Is Teaching Me About Self-Reg 

Blog by Self-Reg Learning Facilitator’s Program Alumni Kaitie Westbrook Recognizing the Moment When Capacity Disappears There’s a moment I’ve come to recognize in my 7-year-old. It happens after he’s already started his homework, when he’s shown me he can do it. Then...