What Happens When “Soft Eyes” Are Not Enough

What Happens When “Soft Eyes” Are Not Enough

There is a phrase that circulates in Self-Reg communities: “soft eyes.” It is a reminder to look at a child’s behaviour with compassion and curiosity rather than judgment. It is a good reminder. An important one. And it is never the whole answer. At...
Co-Regulation Is Not a Calming Strategy. It Is a Relationship.

Co-Regulation Is Not a Calming Strategy. It Is a Relationship.

A lot of people come to Self-Reg having already heard the phrase “co-regulation.” They might even feel like they know what it means: helping a child calm down, using a quiet voice, getting down to their level. Those things are not wrong. But they are the...
When Effort Collapses: What My 7-Year-Old Is Teaching Me About Self-Reg 

When Effort Collapses: What My 7-Year-Old Is Teaching Me About Self-Reg 

Blog by Self-Reg Learning Facilitator’s Program Alumni Kaitie Westbrook Recognizing the Moment When Capacity Disappears There’s a moment I’ve come to recognize in my 7-year-old. It happens after he’s already started his homework, when he’s shown me he can do it. Then...
The Arc of the Day Is Not Just a Schedule, It Is a Stress Plan

The Arc of the Day Is Not Just a Schedule, It Is a Stress Plan

The Arc of the Day Matters More Than We Think Picture a kindergarten classroom at 2:00 in the afternoon. Or a middle school hallway right after lunch on a Friday. Or a Grade 3 class in the third week of November. If you have spent time in schools or early childhood...
What Behaviour Is Really Telling Us: A Closer Look at the Five Domains

What Behaviour Is Really Telling Us: A Closer Look at the Five Domains

Think about a student you have found yourself puzzling over. Maybe they shut down mid-task for no apparent reason. Maybe they explode over something that seems tiny. Maybe they are just… unreachable some days, even when everything looks fine on the...